Ladies, We Must Stop Saying “Those Women”

In the United States women and girls are free to get an education and have a career of their choosing whereas women and girls in other countries are not that fortunate. But why is it that when a woman or young girl is seen working in the Sex Industry in the U.S. we assume it was all her choice and that perhaps it’s a viable job? Look, I know a girl’s gotta eat but why does she have to sell herself to do so? In a country that boasts to be the leader of democracy and freedom for all why would a woman resort to this and why do some of us find that acceptable? The oldest profession? You mean the oldest OPPression. Believe it or not ladies these women are just like us-seriously. They have hopes and dreams, they want a future possibly a husband and a family and yes they want an education and a career. I know it’s hard to believe but not any one of us were made to be used in this way.

There are several factors that may play into how a woman or young girl finds herself in this seedy, sleazy industry. The first one is incest. Incest can start at a very young age where a child doesn’t know right from wrong and is doing what the adult is telling them to do all the while making them believe it is acceptable. This adult could be a parent, the father who consumes large amounts of pornography where very young girls are consistently violated, or a close family member. This can cause the young girl to become promiscuous, through no fault of her own, and look for validation through sexual acts. She will also be desensitized to dehumanizing or violent sex acts because they were embedded in her via porn and the actual act itself. The second is emotional and mental trauma. Mental illness has become a topic of discussion in the United States and it affects large numbers of women and young girls. Bipolar Disorder claims the lives of young women before the age of 25. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is know to cause havoc with emotions and dysfunctional behavior, two of the most dangerous behaviors are unsafe sex and substance abuse. There’s also suicidal thoughts and intense mood swings. That doesn’t sound like a person who can make good life choices. The third factor is economic instability commonly known as extreme poverty. Contrary to popular belief there are young women out there in this country who are not able to get an education or a decent job through no fault of their own. With hungry children and no place to live you can be sure a bad decision will be made for the sake not being impoverished. This is also attributed to major cuts in social programs that help women, especially single moms get on their feet. Cam anyone say third world country? The fourth thoroughly insidious factor is the force, fraud and coercion of women and girls trafficked and sold as sex slaves in every facet of the sex industry, everywhere possible. Brothels, Strip Clubs, on the Tracks (the Streets), Hotels, Male house parties, etc.

And the last but most important factors all together but equally disturbing are: Misygony, sexual harassment and abuse, violence and sexual violence against women and girls and a growing hate for women as a whole. The numbers are in ladies, from the 2016 presidential election to your friendly religious leaders and society at large. So my question is, if we have all of this against us, why are we against each other? By deeming it okay that a woman is “allegedly” selling herself or is “willingly” in the sex industry and that it’s work just like anything else is the most dangerous and destructive attitude we could possibly have. If we continue to make these viable solutions for women and girls, that’s where they will be told to go instead of an education and a career. There is no such thing as “Those Women” they’re our girls and we need to fight for them and ourselves because realistically the way they are looked at, we are all looked at the same way.

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