Domestic violence is an all to familiar problem in the United States. It has been around probably as long as human trafficking has and still, just like human trafficking, it exists and is thriving. How does a person become an abuser or a victim of one? There is a connection with the way a child is treated by the parents which will shape the way he/she will develop as an adult....read more...
If a son is constantly belittled by his mother and publicly embarrassed, he will more than likely grow up with a hatred for women. If a daughter is told she is worthless, ugly and not worth loving, she will believe and in turn end up with someone who will physically abuse her. Then there is the little boy who loves to torture animals for fun, will most likely be a serial killer when he gets older unless it is stopped. At home where it began. There are four factors that play into the abuse of a child physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse and neglect. All of these stop a child from becoming a well developed person capable of loving and receiving love. When they become an adult they pretty much hate the world.
As adults they may find it easy to get someone to love them and be in a relationship or enter into marriage. The person who has agreed to this union has now become the victim without even realizing it. This is particularly scary because their terror is behind closed doors where no one sees. These women are terrified. Some do escape, but with multiple wounds and massive amounts of PTSD that is tantamount to foreign prisoners of war. The abuser often times gets little if any jail time and his thirst for violence isn’t satisfied. He feels that society is against him and he needs to do something about that. Instead of one victim, he now has hundreds and access to firearms that will carry out his blood fantasy. There is no way to gage who will be a domestic violence abuser and who won’t. All we can do is handle it case by case.
Governor Andrew Cuomo of New York has released a proposal for 2018 to take guns out of the hands of domestic violence abusers. This proposal was built on the existing legislation put out by Assembly Amy Paulin and Senator Diane Savino as well as other legislative members. This proposal requires that men who are served with orders of protection should relinquish any firearms in their possession. But just like with any legislation there are holes. The suspension of firearms is at the judge’s discretion who is presiding over the case and that could cause severe damage to any domestic violence victim. Being able to locate these domestic abusers with no case against them is also a slippery situation. The NYPD needs to be trained thoroughly on how to handle these cases. So many times law enforcement treats it like it nothing or believes the abuser and criminalizes the woman. Not much different than human trafficking and we STILL need more NYPD to be trained on that. While I applaud Governor Cuomo and the legislative body for this proposal, I hope it doesn’t get shelved with no real enforcement. If you believe in the Women’s Equality Agenda then you should look at every avenue possible that will make this law iron clad.
As a society we are horrified by the mass shootings of Las Vegas and the church in Texas. So many innocent lives were lost and children died. But so should we be horrified when we know there is a woman on our street in our neighborhood being beaten on a daily basis. It starts with one and it starts at home.
As adults they may find it easy to get someone to love them and be in a relationship or enter into marriage. The person who has agreed to this union has now become the victim without even realizing it. This is particularly scary because their terror is behind closed doors where no one sees. These women are terrified. Some do escape, but with multiple wounds and massive amounts of PTSD that is tantamount to foreign prisoners of war. The abuser often times gets little if any jail time and his thirst for violence isn’t satisfied. He feels that society is against him and he needs to do something about that. Instead of one victim, he now has hundreds and access to firearms that will carry out his blood fantasy. There is no way to gage who will be a domestic violence abuser and who won’t. All we can do is handle it case by case.
Governor Andrew Cuomo of New York has released a proposal for 2018 to take guns out of the hands of domestic violence abusers. This proposal was built on the existing legislation put out by Assembly Amy Paulin and Senator Diane Savino as well as other legislative members. This proposal requires that men who are served with orders of protection should relinquish any firearms in their possession. But just like with any legislation there are holes. The suspension of firearms is at the judge’s discretion who is presiding over the case and that could cause severe damage to any domestic violence victim. Being able to locate these domestic abusers with no case against them is also a slippery situation. The NYPD needs to be trained thoroughly on how to handle these cases. So many times law enforcement treats it like it nothing or believes the abuser and criminalizes the woman. Not much different than human trafficking and we STILL need more NYPD to be trained on that. While I applaud Governor Cuomo and the legislative body for this proposal, I hope it doesn’t get shelved with no real enforcement. If you believe in the Women’s Equality Agenda then you should look at every avenue possible that will make this law iron clad.
As a society we are horrified by the mass shootings of Las Vegas and the church in Texas. So many innocent lives were lost and children died. But so should we be horrified when we know there is a woman on our street in our neighborhood being beaten on a daily basis. It starts with one and it starts at home.
Samantha Inesta
Founder/Executive Director
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